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Ways To Help You Get Over Heartbreak FAST.

As you’re trying to piece yourself back together after a tough split, you might be thinking, “How can I get over this breakup? When will I stop feeling this bad? When will this end?”

Sadly, there’s no clear-cut answer to these questions.

Everyone copes with emotional pain at their own pace. Certain relationships might take an extended period to move on from, particularly if they were long-standing or held significant importance in your life. The most challenging splits often occur during the so-called “honeymoon phase”. It’s perfectly normal to retain a small part of that loss in your memory bank.

But you will heal in time, this I PROMISE you!

Let’s be honest, breakups are rubbish. It’s a universal truth. They sting like hell, no matter the circumstances – whether it’s been brewing for ages or blindsided you completely, whether you ended things or were on the receiving end. When you’re in the thick of it, moving on might seem like an insurmountable task. But trust me, you can and will bounce back from a nasty breakup. I know there’s an urge to stew in your misery, but all that does is prolong your pain.

Rather than dwelling on the past, relationship I suggest some constructive and future-oriented methods to handle the situation. Don’t expect to miraculously move on from that person overnight. However, altering your perspective and cultivating good habits could gradually help you recover from that breakup and get your life back on track.

Heart Breaking Up
Blaming Yourself for Relationship Breakup

Admit To Yourself That You're NOT Fine.

The initial move towards healing is acknowledging your pain. Denying the existence of your sorrow won’t help you overcome it. Simply suppressing it out of sight doesn’t eliminate it, rather, it just buries it deeper—allowing it to brew and potentially erupt later on.

It’s a hard pill to swallow for many, given the societal expectation that discussing our emotions equates to exposing vulnerability. However, feigning emotional immunity is an even riskier game. To truly get over a breakup, it’s crucial to recognise and accept your sorrow. The length of the relationship – be it three years or three months – is irrelevant. We all crave love and when something we believed held promise is abruptly snatched away, it stings. Acknowledging this straightforward truth is the first step towards moving forward.

Trying to get in contact

GO NO CONTACT.

I cannot stress this enough … Cutting off all contact with your ex is one of the most important things to do, especially in the early days after a split. It’s crucial to hit that block or mute button on your phone and on all your social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Don’t hesitate to take this step for your well-being.

The rationale behind this suggestion is for two reasons. Firstly, it’s a preventative measure to stop you from impulsively reaching out to them; the last place you should be lurking is in their DMs. Secondly, it shields you from any posts they might be sharing on social media. Sure, both of you may have agreed to remain friends, but a period of detachment is essential as your emotions won’t just shift from romantic to platonic at the drop of a hat. Keeping them in your feed would be akin to repeatedly prodding an unhealed wound and being inundated with glimpses into their life will only…

If you’re unsure about how to go No Contact, I recommend checking out my book on Amazon called “Silence is Your Superpower.” It provides clear guidance on what you need to do.

Journal Your Feelings

Journal Your Feelings.

Why not take a stab at writing? That’s right, I said writing! It’s an excellent method to reflect on past missteps, the blunders made by both sides and the wisdom gained to prevent repeating them. Try to concentrate on the silver linings, like your fresh independence and the confidence that you’ll be more prepared for your next relationship. I’ve observed that individuals who engage in this uplifting and healing type of writing generally feel more at ease, confident and empowered than those who fixate on negativity.

Don't Go Through This Alone

Don't Go Through This Alone.

We’re often inclined to avoid asking for help, thinking that it’ll only make us feel more alone. This misguided notion that showing our feelings somehow makes us less ‘cool’ or suggests we’re not ‘fun’ when we’re down is a damaging and disheartening view of relationships and self-image. In truth, recognising our emotions is a genuinely powerful move that demonstrates real maturity.

Talk to your friends about how you’re feeling, and they will be able to offer you support. Just be careful not to let that turn into constantly bad mouthing your ex. If you feel like you need to discuss your relationship and how it ended with someone who is less biased, consider seeking coaching. Remember, seeking help doesn’t make you weak; in fact, it demonstrates real strength.

Drunken Girl on Bar

Refrain From The Drinking and Partying.

When we’re heartbroken, it’s tempting to drown our sorrows in booze and reckless behaviour. It might give us a temporary high, but let’s be honest, it’s a short-lived escape that can hinder our healing process. You might end up feeling even worse than before. Breakups are tough, just like any other loss – they need to be mourned properly. Permit yourself to do that. Your rational mind may tell you there’s no reason to feel upset over someone who ditched you, but the heart isn’t always logical, is it? Instead of numbing the pain…

Go Outside.

The fallout from a romantic rejection can often feel akin to coming off drugs. So, do yourself a favour and take some time to reset your mind. Get out in the open air: embark on hikes, go for a swim, or even scale a mountain.

Couple Breakup

See The Breakup As a Lesson.

As cliché as it may sound, you will learn from this heartache, even if it doesn’t feel that way at the moment. When you eventually start dating again, you will have a clearer idea of the kind of relationship you’re seeking and possibly an even stronger sense of self.

Don’t dwell on the regret of this relationship being a waste of time. That kind of thinking is detrimental. Remember, nothing is truly a waste of time. We are shaped by our various experiences, both good and bad. Each piece of baggage we carry is an opportunity to learn and grow, helping us become the best versions of ourselves and truly understand who we are as individuals.

I always offer the personal touch

I limit myself to just a few clients at a time, so I can fully connect myself to your situation, and together we can work out a way for you to move forward.

I will only accept clients who I know I can help, so  please send me a message with a brief outline of your current situation, and I will get back to you to arrange a coaching session to suit your needs and budget.

You do not  have to go through this alone.